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Encouraging Your Child

Mother reading to child from All About Reading Pre-reading reader

Teaching a child is more than just filling a mind with knowledge.

As a homeschool parent, you will spend many one-on-one hours with your children. Teaching is the perfect platform to show your children how much value they have in your eyes—and you can view this time together as an opportunity to encourage your children, to build them up, and to help them develop skills and character.

In the ups and downs of the daily grind, we sometimes get so focused on teaching and “improving” our kids that we forget to encourage them. But teaching a child is so much more than just imparting knowledge.

Sometimes we forget to remind our children to focus on what is possible instead of what seems impossible. We forget how important words are. Your words can speak directly to your child’s heart, convincing him I believe in you.

Easy Ways to Encourage Your Child

While teaching your children, think about the kind of teacher you would want. You would probably like your teacher to be friendly, supportive, and encouraging; one who has a you-can-do-it attitude.

Here are some tips to help you be a calm, uncritical coach with the worthy goal of helping your child fulfill his natural potential:

  • Smile.
  • Point out the things your student does correctly more often than you point out his mistakes.
  • Treat lesson time as a special time between the two of you.
  • Praise your student when he does well.
  • Encourage your student when he feels frustrated.
  • Listen to your student.
  • Listen to yourself to see if you need to fit in more expressions of approval.
Father and son outside on hike

We all love working with people who bring out the best in us; people who encourage us, lift us up, and motivate us to reach higher—and your child is no different. If he ever feels discouraged, try some of these encouraging words to increase his motivation and help him get back on track.

“Wow, you catch on fast!”
“Excellent—you did so well!”
“Very good! You are a quick learner!”
“I love to work with you.”
“Hey, you got that the first time!”
“You are doing great!”
“That was a tough one, and you got it!”
“Good for you!”
“You’re getting it!”
“Awesome job!”
“You remembered that from yesterday—great!”
“I can tell that you tried hard to figure that out.”
“Way to go!”
“Just last week you couldn’t have done that!”

Need a Reminder?

For some parents and teachers, using encouraging words doesn’t always come naturally. When I was teaching my children, I know I needed reminders from time to time. That’s why I’e created a great way to help you remember.

Encouraging Your Child with Encouraging Words poster download

This beautiful printable poster can be laminated and displayed to serve as a daily reminder that your kids need your encouragement.

Your encouragement can mean the difference between your child’s success and his failure.

Is your child feeling discouraged about a poor grade on a test or another educational challenge? Encourage your child with some positive words!

Tips for Encouraging Your Child, Recommended by Our Readers

  • Snuggling with mama encourages them to keep going. Snuggles are quite a reward! (Recommended by Creative Madness Mama via Facebook)
  • My son likes turning everything into a game. (Recommended by Sandy G. via Facebook)
  • When they are discouraged with a new activity, I help my children remember they have only tried it a couple times and to keep trying because they will get better! (Recommended by Renee W. via Facebook)
  • I help my child work toward progress and not perfection. (Recommended by Karina D. via Facebook)
  • Write them small encouraging letters and stick them to the bathroom mirror. (Recommended by Amber via blog comment)
  • Give them high fives, and tell them that they’re awesome and that you love spending your days with them! (Recommended by Christina H. via blog comment)
  • When your child is discouraged because they don’t understand something, repeat what they have said, but add the word “yet”. “You don’t understand this yet.” (Recommended by Julie via blog comment.)
  • Spend a little time each day with each child by themselves. (Recommended by Jennifer via blog comment)
  • When your kids tell you “it’s too hard!” you can validate that “yes, this task is hard, but you CAN do hard things!” (Recommended by Kay via blog comment)
  • Let them have their favorite snack as a “well-done!” (Recommended by Lizzie via blog comment)
  • Remind your kids that they are special and unique…that there’s only one of them in the world! (Recommended by Miss K. via blog comment)
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Scarlet Losavio

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I wish all your emails were in a book so I wouldn’t have to go to my emails and save them to re-read . I love your program and the wonderful emails . I just wish it was all in a tangible hard copy . 😊

Robin E.

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Scarlet,
Much of the content of our emails is found in our books. The appendices in the back of the All About Reading teacher manuals are especially full, although some of the information is found in the gray boxes scattered throughout the lessons.

Yvette

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Love the tips.

Janna

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Great suggestions. Homeschooling for the first year and appreciate the tips. Also, we are enjoying the AAR program that makes reading fun!

Jamie Lorenz

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Thank you. I needed this.

Mandy

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These are some great tips. I have a son who is always saying that it’s too hard so these suggestions will come in handy.

Brandy

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Encouragement is a great motivator!

Clau

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Amazing 😉

Stefanie M

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What wonderful tips!

Sara

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Great suggestions! I will definitely be trying more of these. Thank you!!

Heather

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I love these specific suggestions! I have a hard time giving and receiving praise, so these are great for me to use and work on!

Robin E.

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Heather,
I struggle with giving (and receiving) praise as well. Since part of what I struggle with is empty praise, such as “Great job!” enthusiastically tacked on to everything, it has helped me to focus praise on my children’s efforts more than their results. “You had trouble with that one, but you kept at it and got it. That it what I like to see!” The effort is genuine, so the praise for the effort is genuine as well.

Kelly

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Great tips. Thank you!

Heather

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Love this!

Robin S

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Definitely needed this reminder! My son says things all the time like “I’m no good at this” and “I can’t do anything right”. I know he can do whatever it is he is trying but he gets so frustrated when he messes up the first few times.

Robin E.

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Robin,
I’m sorry your son is so frustrated. Poor guy. Maybe you can try telling him that if it was always right then he wouldn’t be learning, he would already know it. Then, point out things that he used to have trouble with but now finds easy.

Martha

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I definitely need reminders to encourage my kids. I tend to get the end goal in sight and sometimes forget the encouragement needed to get there. Lots of great ideas here.

Elizabeth

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I’m about to start prereading with my 3rd child to go through AAR. We love the program.

Ashley

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Great tips! And thank you for the printable!

Mia

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This was a good reminder, thanks!

Tara

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This part: “sometimes get so focused on teaching and “improving” our kids that we forget to encourage them. But teaching a child is so much more than just imparting knowledge.” New homeschool momma here, trying always to keep this in perspective. Great article

Robin E.

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Tara,
We hope we can encourage you as you begin homeschooling!

Crystal

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Thanks for the poster! Great idea!

Marilyn

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I love the part about helping the child work toward progress not perfection. I need that reminder myself!!!

Robin E.

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Marilyn,
It is hard to be, or to mother, a perfectionist. We need lots of encouragement!

Deirdre

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This is a great article! Encouragement is so important for kids. Sometimes it is not easy to remember to encourage them as much as they need!

Amy H

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Great products!

Desiree

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Encouragement can sometimes get overlooked when focusing on getting things done. These tips are so easy to do and important too!

Robin E.

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Desiree,
Yes! And these can be done without taking any extra time.

Megan

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Have this printable hanging on the wall in our school area!

Robin E.

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Megan,
That is the perfect use of this printable!

Callie Hallock

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Definitely needed this reminder to encourage my little readers more!

Robin E.

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Callie,
I think we all need reminding to be encouraging, at least at times.

Gail Timmer

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This is a super, well organized, easy to use program. I wish I had all the levels!

Robin E.

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Thank you, Gail!

Tiffany M

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Love AAR!

Thea

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Great printable!

Robin

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Thanks for the tips!

Heidi

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Love this! So needed these reminders

RaeLena

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Great tips!! This was a great reminder for myself to encourage my child more, thanks! Love the poster! It’ll come in handy!! Thanks! :)

Elizabeth R

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This is so true! My daughter responds well to praise and encouragement. It’s a good reminder.

AJ

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Great tips and reminders. I think I may print this one out :)

Alexandra

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And sometimes all our young kiddos need is a good break to go play outside. At times it is enough to change their defeated attitude and give them a renewed perspective to help them finish their school work.

Robin E.

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Thank you for this reminder, Alexandra!

Rhonda

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Always a good reminder! Thanks for the printable!

Tara Jackson

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Great tips! As a new homeschooling mom, I need to remind myself to encourage my little guy!

Lindsey

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Thank you, very helpful.

Brandi

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Love the tips of encouragement!

Cyndi

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Love the poster! Sometimes I get so caught up in the “what’s wrong” I forget to appreciate what is “right” :P Thanks for the reminder to always accentuate the positive :)

Robin E.

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You are welcome, Cyndi. Accentuate the positive!

K

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Thanks for this reminder. Having only one, it’s easy for me to focus on all of the negative aspects instead of the positive ones. And, I know he’s smarter than he acts. I just have to find ways to draw that out instead of pointing it out.

Robin E.

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K,
Please let us know in what way he is struggling or not doing as well as you would like. We may be able to help you draw his abilities out, or at least assure you that what he is experiencing is within the range of normal.

Tiffany Shoopman

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Positive affirmations are good for ourselves and especially our children. Once a way of thought has been introduced into a child’s subconscious, there if will remain unless much is done to re-do it. I love this blog post encouraging parents to speak those positive affirmations to our children.

Kit

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Thank you for the article.

Jennifer R

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We have a 9 year old who has delayed reading. We take her reading and learning slow knowing she will get it but anytime she learns reading a new word its constant praises

A. Patterson

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Children need to be reminded that they are very special. Really like the reminders.

Jessica Fuller

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Great reminder! Thanks.

Jessica

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When I first began teaching my children, I allowed my stress to affect my teaching and expected too much from them. The results were disastrous! We have come a long way from where we were, but it would have been better to be encouraging, kind, and fun from the beginning. Thank you for the reminder!

Robin E.

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Jessica,
I think we have all had times when we were less encouraging and kind than we ought to have been with our children, but we can strive to be better.

Audra

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Love all the extra ideas at the end!

K C

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Thank you for sharing this wonderful program and great ideas to help children learn.

Alanna

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Love encouraging and ideas for building this foundation into my children! Thank you!!

Listening to my kids is a concept that I have to constantly remind myself. I find that when I take the time to listen to them, our homeschooling journey becomes much more fun.

Robin E.

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Great point, Indasa. Even young children can offer insight into what they enjoy and what they find difficult.

A. Okuda

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I love AAR! It has saved my sanity (and my daughters) during the early stages of reading. Not only am I more confident, but my 6 year old became more confident with each lesson and story completed.

Robin E.

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Confidence in reading, and in teaching reading, is a wonderful thing! We are happy to hear that AAR has helped to build confidence in your home.

Lori B

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I love this post. It is the philosophy I have used since I started homeschooling my now-23-year-old son. I work with struggling learners and am currently teaching my adopted son who has many challenges, including ADHD, dyslexia, and PTSD. There are days when we get far and days when the simplest thing is too much. If it weren’t for snuggles and words of praise, the day would be ruined. I love AAR so much for my special little guy partly because it has so many fun, encouraging pieces and words built right in.

Robin E.

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Lori,
Encouragement and snuggles do go a long way. It’s great to hear that AAR helps as well. Thank you.

Cheryl W.

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Great Reminders!

Kathy D.

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Thank you for this encouraging post. I try to be as positive as possible with my children that I homeschool, mostly focusing on the improvements and great achievements to remind them what they are capable of.

Robin E.

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Kathy,
We are happy to hear you found this post encouraging! Thank you.

Olinda Youngs

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I homeschooled my 6 children using Spalding’s Writing Road to Reading, which it seems must be the basis for All About Reading. I now have 7 grandchildren and their parents are interested in using AAR, which seems like a much more user friendly option than I had access to! So glad this is available!

Robin E.

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Olinda,
All About Reading is not based on Spalding’s Writing Road to Reading. Rather, both are based on the Orton-Gillingham approach, so their similarities are due to them both coming from the same parent approach.

One of the few differences is that Spalding added “markings” where the student marks the words. All About Reading and All About Spelling make use of letter tiles to teach the same concepts without special markings.

I’m glad to hear you consider All About Reading to be more user friendly. We want to make teaching children as easy as possible!

Ana Tham

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that’s great. I agree. When kids feel encouraged they can do much better.
Speak the truth in love and help them grow healthy.
My son is a very energetic boy but very kind and lovable. So when i speak to him and encourage him to keep going and not give it usually gives him the strength he needs to persevere.
Love the poster.

Robin E.

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Ana,
Thank you for sharing how encouragement helps your son to persevere!

Jaime B

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When my children get discouraged I remind them that it takes practice to really do something well. We reflect on how they’ve improved in the area they are currently discouraged in.

Robin E.

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Great reminder, Jaime. I like to discuss things I have tried to learn that took a lot of practice, like making Jewish rye bread from scratch. My kids have eaten the less than wonderful results of that learning.

Karrie

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I appreciate this post immensely because I have heard kids on the receiving end of very negative comments from parents. It really deflates them and proves to them that they are not worthy of praise. Their little world is so sensitive to our comments, facial expressions, and moods. When we empower them, they really do believe they can conquer that fraction problem or achieve what seems impossible! Great article!

Robin E.

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Karrie,
The idea of discouraging struggling learners with our words saddens me. This post is a great one to revisit from time to time to remind us to be encouraging.

Good Morning, My name is Rachel Anderson
I am a 78 year old Substitute Teacher K-6 throughout Midland, Texas School District. I am very impressed with your posters and would like to receive the Encouraging Word Poster and the A-Z Poster to display when I go to different schools to teach. I am working with no budget at this time and I am not requesting this on behalf of the school district. Therefore, if you will donate them to me I would be indeed grateful. Also, I did not see any posters on how to tell a student what to do if someone touch you inappropriately. Any help you can give to help me make a change in these children lives starting now 2017 before it is too late for many of them would be appreciated. However, once I receive them I can, if you will allow me introduce your educational products to the school district or teachers perhaps they would like to order them. I am not sure if this is the page to post my request, if not please forward. Thanks for your time and considetation. Best Regards,

Robin E.

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Rachel,
Thank you for all you do!

Here is the link so that you can print the Encouraging Word poster. http://downloads.allaboutlearningpress.com/downloads/Encouraging-Words-Poster.pdf

Our A-Z Posters are not available as a printable, but they can be purchased through our website here. http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/alphabet-charts/

We do not have any posters about what a student should do if they are touched inappropriately.

If you want to introduce our products to the school district or teachers, here are some samples for you:

All About Reading samples and scope and sequence links – http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/reading-lesson-samples/

All About Spelling samples and scope and sequence links – http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/spelling-lesson-samples

If you would like to see the product in person, simply order through our system. We have a one year, 100% guarantee, so if you decide that it’s not a fit for your school, you can return the product for a refund of your purchase price. http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/guarantee

Thank you for your interest.

Jack Stephan

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Turning everything in to a game sounds like an interesting concept, especially when it comes to 3d concepts and all in chemistry, physics etc. Wonderful article. Enjoyed reading the readers comments :-)

Miss K

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Remind them they’re special and unique; that there’s only one of them in this world. That God didn’t need to make another copy of them, because they were created perfect the first time round. Tell them they’re a master piece.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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This is lovely, Miss K. Thank you.

sanzu basnet

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thank u

Sandra

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Thank you, I needed this encouraging reminder!

Fran

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Really enjoyed this blog, VERY helpful and the poster was so pretty! But when I printed it out, forgot to do color, so I let my daughter color it in, and I started right away using some encouraging words at what a great job she did=) I have it hanging up in our classroom now. It’s amazing what a few encouraging words will do to help things move along smoothly! Thank you!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Fran,
Thanks for letting us know that printing this poster in black and white results is a coloring page! My daughter would love that.

Anna

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This is very good advice. I really enjoyed the article.

Allison Simpson

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This is exactly what I needed- and who I need to be for my sweet kiddos. Thank you for the support and encouragement!

Kayla

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This is what I needed to remember today. Thank you for the printable poster too.

Crystal

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Thanks for the reminder that I really need to be constantly encouraging my kids.

Mandydmngz

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We absolutely love AAS, and I wish I had it in the budget for AAR. The program gives me as an educator so much confidence that I’m doing it right and we are not missing a beat! It’s a fantastic program.

Deniece

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**GUILTY** I’m guilty of not always remembering to encourage my son and daughter. First year homeschooling and I’m learning. Thanks for the reminder to encourage and finish a subject on a positive note. Still seeking the “right” English/grammar/vocab curriculum.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Deniece,
This is something that we all need to learn to be better at and remember, whether it’s your first year of homeschooling or your 15th. I’m in my 15th year and still struggle with encouragement and positivity. Resolve to do better, but try not to beat yourself up about it much.

Hannah costa

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Thank you for this post! I really needed this :) I love AAR and AAS, they have taken the challenge out of teaching for me, and my kids really respond to the lessons and the approach!

Tiffany

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Thank you for these great tips. It is easy to forget to encourage more and be critical less.

Deanna

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Thank you for this sweet reminder.

Britani

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What wonderful advice!

MelindaB

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A great reminder. Much needed. Thank you.

Tabatha johnson

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I really enjoyed this blog! Having the gratitude of teaching your own child, there is nothing like it

Danielle Jenkins

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Thanks for the concrete examples!

Denise

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My son needed an extra dose of encouragement. Wish I would have had this poster.

Emily

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Great reminder to be positive and supportive while teaching.

Kay

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Thank you for this poster! I love it! I also really love what you’ve written about being the teacher that you would want to have! So great!!

Kay

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When my kids tell me “it’s too hard!” I validate that yes, this task is hard, but I tell them “you CAN do hard things!” and I remind them of successes they’ve had with previous tasks that felt hard and now are easy. I remind them to just keep trying and soon it will come. I also have to remind myself of this when I feel like they should have it by now! Give them the time they need to learn and stay positive! When they don’t believe in themselves, show them that you don’t have a doubt that they can and will do it!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Great reminder, Kay. We all CAN do hard things! Thank you.

Emily

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Great words for parents!

Kelly Urban

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Thank you for the reminder that it isn’t me-against-them. We are in this homeschool experience together. The power of positive words is often forgotten here while trying to get everything done. Your list will be a helpful reminder to focus on the positive!!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Kelly,
Yes! Homeschooling is a team sport!

Jennifer Walker Bruce

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I try to encourage by example as often as possible. If something is difficult for me (hanging a light fixture recently hit the mark) I might say out loud “gahhh this is so hard, but I am not going to give up on it. I guess maybe I should just walk away for a sec and take a breather… What do you think? ” This kind of stuff gives me things to draw upon later. “Hey, remember when those instructions were driving me nuts and you agreed that I just needed a bit of a brain break? Maybe that’s just what you need! We can come back to this later with a fresh head. I’m proud of you for knowing what you need to succeed.”

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
I do much the same, modeling behavior and thought processes I feel are important. Thank you for the reminder.

Carmen

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Thanks for the great post! It echoes so well what God says in Proverbs 16:21, “The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increases learning.”

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Carmen,
Thank you for sharing this verse! I love it!

Priscilla

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Great post! We all need encouragement!

shannon

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Love these reminders :) Encouragement is SO important!

lizzie

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I give encouraging remarks when work is well done and encourage them to try when they haven’t done too well. I also let them make their favorite snack as a well done

Michele

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Thanks for the posters, what a wonderful idea and reminder!

Annette

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I have been trying to do this every day!

Megan

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What a great reminder

Tamara

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I printed this poster and started encouraging more last week. By today, our first full homeschool day after break, I was primed to encourage and motivate my children through the slumps, instead of becoming cross and impatient, which yields bitter fruit. Thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Tamara,
Hears to a great second half of the school year!

Shelly

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A great reminder! One of the greatest joys of homeschooling is being able to see it “click” with my kids. Before, when they were in public school, I missed out on those moments. It has definitely brought us closer together.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Shelly,
Yes! Those moments are precious.

Elizabeth

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This post is such a good reminder! We should definitely be the teachers we would want to have!

Lynn

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Always a needed reminder. Thanks for the beautiful poster!

Paul Milas

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“Be the teacher you would want to have”

I guess you have expressed the entire article in a single sentence. Indeed, it is very important to to be the teacher you always wanted to have in your childhood and not the one you hated. Education becomes so much more easier if you have a teacher you love.

Rebecca, mom of 6

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Thanks for this much needed reminder! We want to raise children of character, not just good readers:) I hear my kids say, “urrrrgh!” and I know where they heard that! One sure way to have children who are irritable about school is to be a grumpy, impatient teacher. I am going to print this poster and hang it at my school table to remind myself to be patient and encouraging during those “urrrgh” moments:)

christine

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Excellent reminder. Thanks

PanJiaLe

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I love the phrase: “Be the teacher you would want to have.”

Aimee

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Thank you for this reminder. It is easy to forget how much an encouraging word can boost a child’s spirit.

Julie

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A good reminder as I can get short & cranky with little ones who have “ants-in-their-pants” moments, or don’t want to do their school when I’m ready for them (with 4 needing my attention this year when it’s time to sit down with one of them for reading or math & they give me a hard time or start having a meltdown it’s hard to remember to be encouraging). :)

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
It IS hard to be encouraging when they are whining, melting down, or otherwise being less than positive themselves. Yet, one could argue that is when it is most needed. I know I need reminders about that as well as anyone.

Kaylene

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I have a tendency to be short with my children, so this is really good advice for me as I am coming to the start of homeschooling.

Melissa

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I make sure to tell them when they did something faster than expected and had no problems.

Eweandtheshepherd

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So true. It’s easy to get caught up in the world’s standards rather than drawing out what the Lord has placed in the children’s hearts.

Sarah

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I need this reminder! My words need to be about more than controlling the situation or producing a certain outcome….I need to be reminded of the the power of words- both positive and negative…..Thank you!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Sarah,
You are welcome. I think we all need this reminder at times.

Katherine Green

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Thanks so much for this. It’s super helpful for me, I don’t give enough praise.

a

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Even more important than reading & writing! We are raising human beings, not just instructing academicians.

Jessi

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Great stuff! Thank for the reminder :)

Ivory

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Wonderful reminder. Thank you.

crystal bradley

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A perfect reminder

Cynthia Mercado

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I remind him that we are all made special with abilities we excel at and some that we have to spend more time learning.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Cynthia,
YES! I do this too, but it can get a bit uncomfortable when the kids ask what I have trouble with. Ever try to honestly list out your own faults to your children? But it is helpful for them to know that mom struggles in areas too.

Kelsey Garber

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I am very glad that one of my friends helped me to find your site! I teach K-9 and I really like your blogs!!!

Erin Hill

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Thank you for this reminder. When things get tough, I don’t feel very encouraging.

Sarah Jelsema

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We would absolutely LOVE to win this!!! We’ve been wanting to get started in this with our daughter!!

Kristina Richardson

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We love AAR. We just finished level 1, and it has really helped my dyslexic child.

Andrea

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These are helpful tips! My daughter and I just finished AAR Level 1. I also have a 4 month old and a 3 year old, so the time that we sit together to complete the lessons is OUR special time. We love it!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Andrea,
I love the idea of approaching reading lesson time as a special mommy and me time. Thank you for sharing it.

Katelin

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Some great tips! I especially love the quote by Mother Teresa!

Amy

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Oh how I love this reminder! One of my favorite quotes from Blessed Mother Teresa😊.

Malena Howe

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Recently I have been learning about helping students have a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. Having a fixed mindset means that you believe you will always be the way you currently are. For example saying “I can’t spell” is a fixed mindset. A growth mindset means you believe you can change and learn. Lately any time one of my kids have said that they can’t do something, I respond by saying “you can’t do that yet” To let them know that with practice they will get it. Also, any time one of them asks how it is that I am so good at something, I answer “practice” to let them know that to get good at pretty much anything, all they need to do is practice.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Malena,
Thank you for sharing this. I am loving the word “yet”.

Christina

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Thanks for the reminder!

Angela

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Love all the tips!

Ashley

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Great reminders!

Jessica

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This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

Liz

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Great reminders!! Thank you!

Pam

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thank you for the reminder

Capri M

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I think I need to read this every day! My son takes words that are said very literally and directly to his heart. I always have to be careful of my word choice when encouraging or correcting him.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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I understand this too well, Capri. It is a great reminder.

Amy K

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like you say, more than just filling a mind with knowledge- I’ve heard it said, in teaching your children it is better to light the fire (of the love of learning) than to fill a bucket. All About Reading has such great readers, my daughter is doing well with them!

Angela Doherty

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This is a timely reminder for me, as with the holidays I have been stressed and rushed. Will definitely so down and encourage more.

Angela Doherty

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This is

jennifer

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I opened my email and this post changed my day! It’s a new year and I told the kids they will have a better teacher. Thanks for the reminder not only to be encouraging but the blessings that flow from that.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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An email that changed your day. That’s high praise, Jennifer. Thank you.

Tracy

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Love all the encouragement and advice I receive on your site. This is our first year using AAR and AAS. My boys live the curriculum.

camille LOPEZ

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So true! I love the Mother Teresa quote! thank you for the printable and the reminder!!

Rhonda

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Always good to be reminded of this! Love the poster for our wall! Thank you!

Melanie Johnston

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Thank you for the reminder & all of your supportive “extras”! We make full use of each & every one of them! Thank you so much! :)

Tina

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Wonderful. I will be implementing these.

Samantha

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Great reminder! Why is it praise and encouraging words have to be learned but criticalness rolls off the tongue? Thanks for the reminder.

stephanie

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Hope this works

Karen

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This is just what I needed! Thanks!

Elizabeth B

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This is a good reminder! Thanks for the printable, too!

Jessica

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We love All About Reading. My daughter read yesterday to me and then hugged me after and told me she loved me being her teacher. She use to be so anxious when trying to read on school it would make her sick. Homeschooling and your programs have made her to much more confident.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jessica,
Thank you for sharing this. It tears me up to think about the anxiety that many struggling learners experience in a classroom setting, especially because anxiety about learning is the worst thing to help a struggling learner succeed. Good for you for bring her home and allowing her to learn in a warm, caring environment where she can have the best chances at success!

Erin

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Thanks – this is great!

Denise Wilson

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Great reminder for when days get hard. Thank you.

Shelly Roy

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As the mom of a 15 learning challenged son, this poster is going on my wall! It will serve to remind me that my guy IS fearfully and wonderfully made! Thansk!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Shelly,
I hope you and your son find the poster to be encouraging all year long!

Barbara Allyn

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So important to remember to stay encouraging!

Heather

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Thank you Marie for this inspiring post! I really like the printable poster – thank you! :)

Tina-maria

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By always being available and approachable – my children know they can approach me with any problems they may have

Christina

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I love this. I always feel encouraged myself when I come to this website. What a beautiful thing you are doing for all of us out here. I would come give hugs to everyone if I could to express my gratitude for all you do.

Staci Miller

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I’ve finally put my foot down. As of this month, I have taken my daughter out of the public school system. Often my six year old girl would come home from school and tell me the other kids called her stupid, and the infamous color system was being used on her as a punishment for her inability to understand the lesson was appalling and frustrating to the both of us. Often I would find myself telling the teacher, “Please encourage and cheer her along instead of punishing her for not understanding.”
This poster will be printed as a constant reminder of one of many reasons I am homeschooling instead of using the public school system. Smile, Praise, Encourage, and Listen are vital for child’s development. We as parents should build our children up to be the best they can be and to believe in themselves!
Thank you for this wonderful read.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Staci,
I am so sorry your daughter has had to experience this, but I know she will find encouragement and support at home with you! I hope you have a GREAT first semester of homeschooling.

Amber

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Thank you so much for a wonderful post! This is something that I really need to be reminded of. I get overwhelmed (5 kids…2 with special needs) and I tend to lose my patience. I have been working on keeping calm and being more encouraging though and I found that the kids really thrive on it. I do little things like making sure to always point out the positives in everything they do, celebrate achievements, and write them small encouraging letters that I stick to the bathroom mirror. I always make sure they know I am so proud of them and I think they are awesome!

Donna Redgewell

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It’s so easy to forgot, that words and touch can be such a powerful tool.

Love everything about this post. We give high fives. I tell them what they are great at (insert specific skill or trait). And I tell them that they are awesome & I love spending my days with them!

Sharon

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It’s amazing how something so simple can be so life impacting; yet, at the same time challenging to do in a moment of impatience! Truly our tongues have been given the power to speak words of death or life into a person’s life or any given situation. Great reminder to everyone not just homeschooling parents. Even during those seasons in homeschooling that are very hard, it’s so important that we never forget to encourage the children or ourselves for that matter!
Love what Mother Teresa said – it’s so true. Let’s keep planting those seeds of uplifting words in these young hearts :)

Jennifer Balogh

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This is such an important lesson, and one that needs to be repeated. Love it.

I love using All About Reading – the other day my daughter was fighting me on doing her lesson, then I used the script enclosed and BOOM her little eyes lit up and she got it AND COULD READ ALL THE WORDS that she just “blah blah blah” just 2 minutes earlier. Everytime I actually take the couple of minutes to work through the scripts with her – it makes the HUGEST difference. It’s been such Godsend to help reinforce what she is learning through her OG tutors. THANK you so much!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
Thank you for sharing how our scripted lessons have made such a difference for your daughter.

Maya

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Thank you for this reminder! I do use encouraging words, but I don;t think I am the teacher I want to have as much as I should be. When I “know” that my children can do something, but they are not giving it enough attention, I tend to become critical and pushy. And those are the moments of weakness, which I wish I’d learn to handle with more grace and less strictness. I will try to use your reminder to become better at this for my kids.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Hugs, Maya. We all have such moments, or at least I know I do.

marie hall

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needed this today

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Marie,
I’m glad your post was timely for you, but it sounds like maybe you had a bit of a discouraging day. I hope today was better.

Shandy

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Thank you for the reminder that we all need encouragement.

Tiffani

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What a good reminder. I will speak positive to my kids and in front of my kids.

Lourie

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We all need words of encouragements. I Have used “that was a tough, and you got it!” Motivation words before and it’s such a satisfaction to see the kids faces light up. Thanks for the printable poster! Will be downloading this! :)

Stacy

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Thank you for the reminder. I will use the poster for the cover of my homeschool schedule binder. Thanks!

Teresa

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well, this is something I need to work on. I think I get more discouraged than my kids do. Thanks for all of your uplifting and interesting posts!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Teresa,
Maybe you should keep the poster nearby for yourself! Encouraging self-talk has been shown to be important in many areas.

Julie

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When children are discouraged, and say “I can’t do this,” “I don’t understand this,” “I just don’t get it,” etc…repeat back what they say (empathy) but add a “yet” (encouragement and hope). “You don’t understand this yet. But I know we will find a way to make it make sense to you.” That one word “yet” is very powerful! Love the printable; thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
Yet… I love it! What a great word. Thank you for sharing it.

Asano

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Thank you for this good reminder! :)

Nellie

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What a great reminder to me to be positive for my sons. It is like a ripple in a pond. Someone has to take the lead. When you home school moms it. Great encouragement!

Kelly Levesque

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“Be the teacher YOU would want to have.” I love this! What a great reminder!

Amber

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Thanks for the reminder of the power of encouragement! I just printed the cool poster!!!!

Saph

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Great reminder!
Our words are powerful and can speak life or death so we need to choose life!

Jenny Acosta

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Thank you so much!

Suanna

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I needed this post on encouraging my students, sometimes I get so busy teaching that I forget to let them know that they are doing well. This year we have been using sticker charts to mark completed items by lunch everyday. When the chart is full they get to choose a special treat to go along with their lunch. It works great and my children work hard to complete their work in a timely fashion.

Jill

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Too often this our focus on our encouraging words and smiles are neglected. My daughter always tells me she wants to see, feel and hear my encouragement. I’m thankful she gently reminds me of what all children need. Hopefully this year I can be better at teaching with encouragement as I inspire my kids to keep learning.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jill,
Bless your daughter’s heart! What a great reminder to include non-verbal encouragement like a smile, a touch, a hug, or even clapping.

My kids love hands-on learning activities. Rote memory works well for them at times, but they need to be able to go back and almost immediately use what they learned. Otherwise they don’t see the need to learn it.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Paula,
Great point. Many children need to immediately use what they have learned in order to cement the understanding.

Jennifer

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I try to spend a little time each day with each child by themselves. They get a little break from their siblings and I get to know them independently. This time recharges us all…

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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This sounds lovely, Jennifer. Thank you for sharing.

Paige

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I leave my children that can read little notes when I notice them doing something that I like. With my little ones, I make extra time for just them to do something they really enjoy doing.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Oooo, I love the idea of leaving little notes of encouragement! I’ll be stealing this idea :). Thank you for sharing it, Paige.

Tosha Kelly

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I need to to do a better job of this!

Linsey

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We do this kind of positive review at the end of every day!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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What a lovely way to end the day, Linsey!

Jodie uhlig

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Oh this is FANTASTIc!!!!

Jenn Khurshid

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Thank you for this reminder!

Kristin Evans

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These are great reminders to keep our words positive with our children.I love the poster!

Julie

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This is so important to remember especially with a child who internalizes things. I find it very helpful to point out how far they have come and show them work they have done in the past compared to what they are doing now so they can see that they are actually improving and doing a great job.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
Yes, this is a great way to encourage! Reading a story from a couple months ago or spelling words from a previous level can go a long way to giving kids a better perspective of just how far they have come. Thanks for pointing this out.

Abigail

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I think this is something I struggle with most. Often I have to catch myself from being too critical. Thanks for the encouragement.

Jennifer

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This was very well timed for me. My dd completely shuts down if something is too hard, or if she gets it wrong & is corrected. I’ve started letting her correct some of her own math, & she is better figuring it out herself. A lot of great ideas & sayings here! Thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
I’m sure these encouraging words will help, but maybe you can discuss the idea that mistakes can be good things with her. Try getting this book from the library, Beautiful Oops. Or, if she is is the type that will find more comfort in real world examples, read or summarize this article for her, 9 Brilliant Inventions Made by Mistake. Basically, get her thinking about how mistakes can lead to wonderful things.

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