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7 Ways to Be the Teacher Your Child Needs

Think back a few years to when you were in school. Did you have a favorite teacher?

At the time, you probably didn’t consider why you preferred one teacher over another. You just knew that you felt valued, loved, and understood in Miss Smith’s classroom. In fact, you still feel kind of warm and fuzzy when you think about sweet Miss Smith!

mom and daughter learning together

What Makes a “Good” Teacher?

Let’s consider this question from a child’s perspective. If you asked your child to tell you what she wants in a teacher, what would she say? Go ahead and ask her … I’ll wait!

If your child is like most, you probably heard things like “gives me lots of recess” or “doesn’t make me do math.” But if we were to take a poll of the characteristics that children really appreciate in a teacher, we might also hear responses like these:

  • Is nice to me
  • Doesn’t yell
  • Listens to me
  • Cares about me
  • Is excited when I get something right
  • Is proud of me when I try
  • Understands that I’m not like everyone else
  • Makes learning fun
boy having fun learning

Did you notice that many of these qualities focus on the relationship between teacher and student? Coupled with the fact that your homeschooled child lives with his teacher, the importance of a positive student-teacher relationship gains even greater significance. But in the ups and downs of the daily grind, we sometimes get so focused on teaching and “improving” our kids that we forget to let them know how important they are to us and how much we believe in them.

Positive Encouragement Is Huge!

We all love working with people who bring out the best in us—people who encourage us, lift us up, and motivate us to reach higher—and your child is no different. If he ever feels discouraged, try some encouraging words to increase his motivation and help him get back on track.

This quote from Mother Theresa is one of my favorites: “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” It can be helpful to have a reminder of that from time to time, so we created this beautiful printable poster to serve as a daily reminder that your kids need your encouragement.

download encouraging words poster

6 More Ways to Be the Teacher Your Child Needs

The impact the student-teacher relationship can have on your child’s ability to succeed is immeasurable. Here are a few more ways that you can be what your child needs most in a teacher.

  1. Treat lesson time as special.
    As your child’s teacher, you will spend many one-on-one hours with your child. Teaching is the perfect platform to show your child how much value he has in your eyes. What a great opportunity to encourage your child, build him up, and help him develop skills and character.
  2. Smile.
    Think about what a difference a smile from your boss or coworker makes when you’re feeling frustrated. To a discouraged child, a smile may communicate you can do it! even better than words can.
  3. Reinforce the positive.
    Point out the things your student does correctly more often than you point out his mistakes. The more you reinforce something, the more likely your child is to repeat it. Just follow the basic principles on the graphic below.
list of 5 principles for reinforcing the positive
  1. Avoid comparing your child.
    The temptation to compare your child to another child, to a test result, or even to your ideal outcome is a “big pit” that puts pressure on your child and usually leads to frustration and discouragement.
  2. Listen to your child.
    Attentive listening lets your child know you are engaged and present in the conversation, and a child who knows he is heard and understood feels valued.
  3. Listen to yourself.
    But don’t just listen … listen through your child’s ears. Do you need to include more expressions of approval in your teaching?

How do you encourage your child? Let me know in the comments and we’ll add some of our readers’ ideas to the list below.

Tips for Encouraging Your Child, Recommended by Our Readers

  • When my kids are discouraged with a new activity, I help my children remember to keep working at it because they will get better! (Recommended by Renee W. via Facebook)
  • I help my child work toward progress and not perfection. (Recommended by Karina D. via Facebook)
  • I write them small encouraging letters and stick them to the bathroom mirror. (Recommended by Amber via blog comment)
  • I like to give them high fives and tell them that I love spending my days with them! (Recommended by Christina H. via blog comment)
  • When my child is discouraged because she doesn’t understand something, I repeat what she said, but with the word “yet.” “You don’t understand this yet.” (Recommended by Julie via blog comment.)
  • When my kids tell you me “It’s too hard!” I reply, “Yes, this task is hard, but you CAN do hard things!” (Recommended by Kay via blog comment)
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Karla hill

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Great tips! Thanks for the reminder!

Traci Allen

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Great advice. Thanks!

Katie

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I love this post-it came at just the perfect time. It is my first year homeschooling and boy has it been a learning process lol! I printed off these tips and hung them in our homeschool space as a gentle reminder for me. Thank you!

Robin E.

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You are so welcome, Katie. I hope your first year is a lovely one! Let me know if you need anything.

desirae

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I love the bit about ‘avoid comparing your child.’ I have to remember this when we are doing lessons sometimes – it’s so easy to think that comparison and competition will drive a child to perform the way you want them to on a lesson, when encouragement and praise are much better rewards!

Robin E.

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Desirae,
Great points! Thank you.

edith

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i can not agree more

Erin

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My public schooled child answered, “more talent tickets (awards for good behavior,so recognition), be nice and good at math. My homeschooled child still sleeping. Lol

Robin E.

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I love your child’s response, Erin! More recognition is a wonderful thing to offer to a student!

Shelley

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I have enjoyed looking into this program. Anxious to see if its the one for us!

Jessica

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These are all such great ideas!

Alyssa

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This is a great article! Thanks for all the great tips.

Nicole

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All of these awesome points can make such a difference! Thanks!

Rebecca

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Great points. My favorite was “listen to yourself”. This is so huge and can make such a difference!

Lily Wu

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Thanks for the great tips!

Tristan Eddy

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Great tips!

Amandea

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Good tips for encouraging a continued desire to learn. I like to point out what my child has done right and build on those aspects when he/she is struggling.

Claudia

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Thanks for encouraging us to encourage and have positive attitudes whilst teaching our children.

Katherine

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Excellent advice

Esther

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Good reminder

Kristen

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Simple, but important advice. Thanks!

Esha

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Love the encouragement! Good tips and wonderful blog!

Amy Marshall

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Thank you for these reminders!! 💙

Eugenia

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Thank you! You give me courage to go on!

Amy Gomez

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All About Reading has been such a life saving for teaching my children to read. I’ve tried a few others and didn’t have much success until this curriculum. I really love it!

Holly

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These are such good tips and reminders for all teachers!

Brooke Beach

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We love this curriculum! It is easy for me to teach varies ages with different learning styles!

Stephanie Blew

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This is why I chose to homeschool. I had so many mean teachers that really broke my spirit and killed my desire to learn. I didn’t want that for my kids. I love posts like these that reminds us of our “why’s” and gives us fresh new ideas of ways to bring out the best in our kids!

Robin E.

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Stephanie,
I’m sorry you had to experience mean teachers. I had a few myself and it does have an impact. I know I am not always the nicest teacher/mom I can be to my own kids (I try, but I have my days), but I do know that no other teacher could love them as much as I do!

Stephanie Blew

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Oh I have my days too! You’re right, no other teacher could love them like their own mom…and that’s what makes the difference. When moms have a bad day, we can apologize, ask for forgiveness, love and hug on them…let them know we all make mistakes. They know we have an unconditional love for them. They’re not humiliated in front of a classroom full of peers and less likely to carry it with them for life. I know the mean teachers I had never once made things right with me. It’s how they treated kids in general. Minus a few faves…sometimes.

Lynnette

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This program makes so much sense and I like that it focuses on mastery.

Suzanne

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I love all this encouragement to encourage our kids! Wonderful ideas! Suzanne

Beth C.

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What wonderful reminders! Thank you!

Marlene Lindquist

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As a retired 33+ teacher who is tutoring in an inner city school, I love to read all your suggestions and strategies. Your free materials are a blessing. I use them in my small groups. Thank you.

Amy

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Thank you for these common-sense gems that are so easy to forget yet so powerful. Good reminders for me!

Jessica

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I have never used this program but am eager to try it with my children.

auschick

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Love these! My 6 year old always responds well to “HIGH FIVE!”.

Leanne

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This was so helpful, a great reminder!

Roz

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My Grade 3 daughter has spelling challenges. She does okay with her spelling quizzes, yet she does not spell well when writing. She continues to reverse the b/d, and her handwriting is challenging to read. Teachers are saying that it’s normal for her age, yet I’m no longer sure about that. She is sensitive about her schoolwork and I don’t want to overwhelm her with using AAS at home after school, however I feel she needs additional help to progress.

Robin E.

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Roz,
I’m sorry your daughter is struggling with spelling and writing! Poor kid.

Reversals are normal up to about age 8, but since most 3rd graders are 8 it may be time to take further action. We have a blog post specifically on B and D reversals and what to do to help. While air writing tip and the tactile letter tips seem a bit silly, they are very effective especially for those that have had difficulty with reversals for a long while.

Considering your daughter’s trouble with handwriting, reversals, and spelling, I recommend taking a look at our blog post about Dysgraphia. She may or may not have trouble with dysgraphia, but I think many of the tips in that blog post will be helpful for you and her.

Speak with her teacher about options to help your daughter. Even though the teacher says it is normal for her age, you can still request that your daughter be evaluated. And you may be able to get permission for your daughter to work on spelling with you and not have to worry about spelling at school. Even if you cannot, All About Spelling is designed to take just 15 to 20 minutes a day and many parents use it with their children after school.

I hope this helps some, but please let me know if you need anything further.

Sara

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Good reminder. Not only for school, but for day-to-day mothering!

Robin E.

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Definitely, Sara. Of course, so much of mothering, whether school or not, IS teaching in one form or another, so it definitely applies. 😊

Amanda van Strate

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Great article thanks!!

RobertnCrystal

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This is something we all, as home educators, need to keep in mind. Thank you!

Colleen Anderson

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Needed this reminder!

Amanda

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Good advice. Thanks.

Bettina

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I used this with my son who has dyslexia and it was great!

Jenny

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Hmthank you for this. Some great encouragement and reminders. I’m going to use the verbal tips to speak more life in our homeschool.

Robin E.

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Jenny,
Your comment, “speak more life in our homeschool,” caught my eye. What a lovely way to put it! Thank you. 😊

CHRIS MCCAFFERTY

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I love the advice you give!

Ana

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Great encouragement!! Thank you!

Stacy W

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Love receiving the emails with helpful tips and encouragement!

Allison

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I really needed to be reminded of this. Thank you and I am sure my son will thank you too.

Martha

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Such a great reminder. Thanks!

Jessica

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Thank you for helping us teach our children better. My boys have enjoyed learning with this system.

R Jack

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Very helpful. Thanks.

Petrina C

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While my students (severe dyslexia) are working hard and decoding I am busy thinking of different letters of the alphabet! Each letter prompts me to think of a new praise word, so that the encouragement comes across as genuine and relevant! For example, Fantastic! You nailed it! Great! Wonderful!
This has two benefits. First the child’s inner critic is being drowned out by praise, and secondly the praise is meaningful to the child and they enjoy the lessons!

Robin E.

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Thank you, Petrina! I love how you challenge yourself to always be providing fresh praise.

Erin Ramos

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When my daughter hits the level of fruatration, I recommend a break and remind her that she can come back to the task with fresh perspective.

Robin E.

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That is such a great way to approach frustration, Erin!

Manisha

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Very much intersting n important part of homeschooling

Machele

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When my kids feel it is too hard and want to quit I remind them that many great things have happened to people shortly after they were about to quit. We take a break and talk about all the great things people have accomplished because they persevered. This encourages them and makes them determined to try again. Sometimes they even have to remind me, which brings me great joy by the fact that they have assimilated this idea in their young minds.

Robin E.

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This is a great way to approach it, Machele! And, when your kids have success you can add them to the list! Thank you for sharing this.

Mira

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This has been a good reminder for me! Thank you!

Denise

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Thanks for reminding me about the power of positive encouragement!

Catherine Marti

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Thanks for the great giveaway

Natalie Kresta

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I appreciate this blog post. I tend to be a very critical person and always need reminders to use positive encouragement with my children.

Nan S.

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Just started AAS this year. So far we are leaping through. Both my student and I are having fun and she is actually finally grasping spelling concepts and reading is improving too! Win-win!

Christina

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Someone once told me when I was a new mom to make sure I smile at my child when she looks to me. I have noticed that over the years, it’s something that I have to consciously make a decision to do, even though I’m a naturally positive person!! I still have to remember to smile at my kids, and it really makes a difference in the mood of our home. :)

Robin E.

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What great advice you received, Christina, and thank you for sharing it with us! Interesting that you have noticed a difference in the mood of your home when you smile more intentionally.

Kristina Davenport

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Great tips!

Renee Wade

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Thanks for the tips! I many times forget that daily words of encouragement are necessary and get wrapped up in completing the lesson.

L Kufeldt

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These are great tips!

Cheri

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Thanks for all the encouragement and help to be the best teacher I can be to my children.

hiseyj

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I love all of the resources you provide. They are very helpful.

Miriam Richards

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I’ve found this is so true with my piano students, and yet I needed this reminder for my own children! Thank you for making it so easy for me to set goals to do better at teaching them in an environment where they feel that I believe they can succeed.

Robin E.

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Miriam,
I think we all need these sorts of reminders from time to time!

Karen

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Such good reminders! There are so many reasons why it is good to homeschool my child, why would I want to undermine that with a negative attitude on my part. I love these kids and want to encourage them to do well at what they do!

Sierra Castro

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This is a real struggle for me. Homeschooling has taught me so much about myself and my child. It’s reminders and tips like this that keep me aligned on the right path.

Rubia

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Just love this. Interesting,

Lisa Abercrombie

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Love this! Great reminder. I think with reading especially it’s hard to be patient and even encouraging. So thank you! Very practical too!

Joelle

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Such a good reminder! I love all about reading and spelling programs – my children do too 🙂

Laura

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Love these tips! All great reminders for homeschooling parents. We love our AAR Lessons and the sticker chart that goes along with it.

Great read and reminder! …And who is there to encourage the teacher? After numerous power struggles today that completely de-railed our day, I am wiped out and utterly discouraged. I don’t have the energy to waste on childish power struggles….or a child who doesn’t want to buckle down to do her work! (Always blaming me that it’s too this or that). So as much as I know I have to encourage and build the positive relationship; it’s pretty hard when she pulls her punches for no apparent reason, after I’ve made good effort to build positive connections…at times it doesn’t feel worth the effort.

Vanessa

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I’m sorry Margit , I hear you on what your saying, it’s almost as if the detailing is on purpose just so the work isn’t getting done. I read your comment and felt the same way. I have asked moms that have older children in college and asked them to tell me how did they do it, did they have kids that followed along with what they said/asked them to do and did they have such a great time homeschooling? To which they responded that they to had struggles such as these , but they stuck thru it and remained faithful AND they made sure to say that God was/is faithful , because they thought “oh my gosh …..my kids are never going to learn “ and look the proof is in the pudding , they’re bright kids , they turned out well , GOD is Faithful
Praying for you too

Margit

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Thank you, Vanessa! After reading the other article Robin mentioned below I gained further insight…and realized that the negative/fight/flight reactions my daughter has been having over math had more to do with a misunderstanding of expectations, causing her to feel overwhelming pressure about her performance…so she was having ‘performance anxiety’, I suppose. I am making a couple of changes, and definitely releasing the pressure – so she can feel more calm again…Please pray it works smoothly :). I wouldn’t know what to do with every tidbit of encouragement from forums like these! God Bless!

Robin E.

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Margit,
I am so sorry you are having a day like this! You asked a very good question, “Who is there to encourage the teacher?” That can be hard. A logical place is your spouse, but sometimes they don’t know how to encourage you. You may have to tell him. Finding the right homeschool friend can be very encouraging, but it does take the right friend that you can open up to. I have found over the years that I can encourage myself. I don’t know how long you have been at this, but looking back over the years allows me to see how far we have come and gives me peace over where we are going.

It can be hard to build your relationship with a child when it is not working. When I went through something similar, I had to focus on the whole child and all of our relationship, not just our teacher/student relationship. I found that we had problems in all areas and that actually allowed me to be more patient and prosaic with academics. On the other hand, if the problem is only with academics, it may be that the academics ARE the problem. A child that is normally sweet and compliant becoming difficult and resistant when doing school may be struggling beyond his or her abilities.

Lastly, please take a look at our blog post on How to Handle Tears and Frustration in Your Homeschool. In it, Merry gives very helpful and specific tips for addressing difficulties like these. I love how she asks her children, when they aren’t upset, to think about why they act that way and what could be done to fix it. It’s really insightful to hear what your child has to say when you open up dialogue like that!

I hope this encourages you some, but please let me know if you need anything else.

Margit Hall

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Thank you, Robin, This is exactly what I needed, along with the other blog post. I mentioned above, that upon examination and reflection, I realized that our daughter had a misunderstanding of expectations over math…causing her great distress. So – I am having to clarify our goals, and find some fun ways to release some pressure – even taking a break from math for a while….whew! What a relief to me to have these articles show up at such a critical time…I was worrying that no matter what I did to connect wasn’t working until I could see the misunderstanding could be causing the problem. Thanks again!

Robin E.

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Margit,
I’m so pleased to hear you are feeling encouraged! I know this week started discouraging for you and I am very happy to hear that I helped at least a little to turn that around for you.

You are welcome, but please let me know if you need anything, even if it is math related. Often the things that make AAR and AAS work so well, things like multisensory and on-going review, can help make other subjects better too.

M. Ahrens

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Love this article! From someone who is just starting out this was great words of wisdom!!

Becky Shipley

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This article was everything I needed to read! I have been struggling and I’m seeing that perhaps it has more to do with my approach. Thank you for this insight.

Erin

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Thank you for this great read. I needed to be reminded to praise my kids frequently.

Sarah

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Great reminders on how to encourage our little people. Thanks!

Lyndsay

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Thank you for these encouraging words! Sometimes I get so caught up in fixing mistakes that I forget to celebrate the accomplishments. What a timely reminder. :)

Brooke Zimmerman

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Oh, thank you for this!!! I very much struggle with comparing my child and myself, but I’m working on it ~ With grace and humility!!! Plus, we are trying to make our lessons more fun!! Great thoughts.

Maureen Kimball

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I do math problems alongside my students. My pre algebra student (son of a friend) started out this year discouraged, and very much lacking confidence. Every time he made a mistake he got angry, which only made him make more mistakes. I make mistakes too when I do long division or copy a problem down wrong. I always let him know when I make a mistake and laugh about it. I encouraged him to do the same. After a while I could see him catching himself. He is gaining confidence in his math skills now, after just six weeks, really mastering the concepts. And he smiles when I get one wrong that he gets right. And after he aced a test today he told me with a big smile on his face that math is fun!!

Robin E.

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What a wonderful approach, Maureen! I just love this! Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤❤❤

Amanda P

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Great teachers make all the difference!

Oluwunmi

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Beautiful

Kari Lynn Kahlstorf

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Love All About Spelling!!

Christie

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I love the printable chart of encouraging words! I am going to hang it in my classroom!

Robin E.

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I’m glad you like it, Christie. I hope it provides you with lots of encouragement to be encouraging! 😊

Samantha

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Relationships are so important to build with each individual child! Taking time to just smile and encourage them along the way goes farther than you think. This is a great list!

abedabun dawn

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I just found this site…. Very useful info.

Tamra P

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I try to give lots of hugs and encouraging words, especially when he’s discouraged or thinks he can’t do something. Sometimes we take breaks to just be silly if I feel we may be getting stressed. We also have “Fun Friday” occasionally where we just have a fun day off and do things he enjoys. That is always a good incentive for him to work hard all week.

Robin E.

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I love your “Fun Friday” idea, Tamra! I’ve done something similar in the past, but we called it “Friday Fun”. Great minds think almost alike. 😉

Anna M.

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Wonderful tips!

M. C. DeGroff Davis

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Each student is different. I have found encouragement to work way better than rewards.

Robin E.

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I have had similar experiences! Rewards work only as long as the child wants the reward. Then what are you left with? But encouragement keeps working.

Ami Tate

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My 2nd grader gets down on himself so quickly – these are great tips!

Caitlyn

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Relationships are so key to any teaching moment. When a student trusts a teacher they are better able to receive feedback both positively and negatively. It is important to develop the relationship before learning can truly take place.

Jessica

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Great advice and takeaway, especially for beginning homeschooling parents!

Lisa Dorsett

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Thank you for these wonderful encouraging words and statements! Always keep them focused on the positive and encourage them along the way. Very good things!

Jennifer Ware

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I just purchased All About Spelling recently, my son has learned so many new things and techniques. I am not a good speller but it teaches me how to help him. The words of encouragement are also found in the book, I try to use them often.When you praise your a child it makes them feel good and keep them wanting to learn new things. All About Spelling was the best learning tool I purchased.

Gina P

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Thank you for encouraging me to encourage my student!

Judith Shearman

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Beautiful article, thank you! So helpful and encouraging. Sometimes it is hard to stay positive and say positive things when I’m frustrated. I’m definitely printing the poster and putting it up near the school table! Thank you!!!

Robin E.

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You’re welcome, Judith! I hope this poster encourages you to be encouraging! 😀

Margaret

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This is useful- although these are things we generally know- it’s good to keep it in mind.

Nicole

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Thanks for this post 😊

Pamela

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Thank you for the reminder!! I tried it and I’ve noticed a huge difference in their demeanor and attitude about themselves. My oldest daughter doesn’t like writing but now she says she loves spelling.

Robin E.

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Pamela,
I love that encouragement has helped your daughter learn to love spelling! Thanks for sharing this.

T. Matos

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Using cuddle reading strategy and knitting allowed me to relax and encourage. Taking turns reading poetry allowed for longer reading periods with less frustration. The other day we read a familiar story about three little pigs but in a letter format “Dear Peter Rabbit” by Alma Flor Ada. The storyline was familiar but the twist allowed them to tackle new vocabulary without protest because we were enjoying the new point of view and illustrations! It reminded me to pickup more picture books.

Robin E.

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That book sounds interesting! Thanks for mentioning it.

Carol

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Children need a lot of encouragement and praise. It makes them so happy to hear your praises.

Megan

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I love the beautiful printable that has great reminders of practical ways to encourage our children. Thanks!

Aicha

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Thank you,
Very important input

Ariana

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Thank you for this! I really struggle to encourage my son when he’s frustrated.

Jessica Shorey

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Thank you for the helpful hints

Rosa Marin

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Thanks for the valuable information !

Wow! You are doing a great job of training your brain!

Robin E.

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I like this one, Linda! 😀

Thank you, Robin!

Cathy

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Great reminders, especially to have patience when teaching little ones. So glad we found AAR, it’s really helped our family! Excited to start AAS this coming school year as well!

Casey

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It is difficult to stay positive with a student who has a negative attitude toward any language arts activity, because of the significance of his learning disabilities and ADD. After years of frustration, it is easy for the mom/teacher to be negative right back. Even though my intuition knows that negativity will get us nowhere! Thanks for the reminder to stay positive and encouraging to my student. I need to remember to be the adult and not let his negative attitude toward school drag me down.

Robin E.

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Casey,
I know it can be so hard to remain encouraging while your student is routinely negative.

I have found success in working toward decreasing my student’s negativity. Our blog post 9 Ways to Keep Reading and Spelling Lessons Motivating can help. I personally found that day-in-day-out consistency helps. When I go out of my way to make sure that we do short lessons 5 days a week every week, there is less negativity. It just becomes something we do.

I hope this helps a little. Please let me know if you have any questions or need anything.

Anna

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Thank you for all your helpful tips! You go above and beyond providing tools to equip homeschooling parents!

Jen

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I agree! You’ve gone far and above just producing a great curriculum. Thank you for all your encouragement, resources, and insights!

Robin E.

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Awww, thank you Jen and Anna! 😊

Jessica

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This printable will be a great reminder when my patience is dwindling. Thank you!

Shae

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These are great reminders. Thank you!!

Sara R

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Great reminders, thanks!

Jocelyn

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Such wonderful reminders!

Donald Knight

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Encouragement/acknowledgement is crucial.

Emily

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Great suggestions!

Marie Hinojos

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Thank you for all you provide to equip parents to raise up happy healthy learners.

Kendra

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This is a wonderful reminder. As a mom who is just beginning the homeschool journey with my kindergartener and my 4th grader (who has dyslexia and Irlen Syndrome), these reminders are wonderful.

Jenna

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Thank you! We love AAR!

Angela

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Such a good reminder! Thanks for the poster!

Lynne

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Great reminders! It’s easy to get caught up in the specific task and forget about the bigger picture of helping your child grow as a whole person.

Robin E.

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Lynne,
Exactly! I hope these reminders help.

Cherie

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Love the poster.

Laura C

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Thank you! 😀

Sherry

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Thank you!

Sarah Buras

says:

I love this! So true for my son, he thrives on positive reinforcement and is easily discouraged by negativity.

Destiny

says:

Working through AAR has made more progress with my son than any other program. Can’t wait to starts AAS!

Robin E.

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It’s so wonderful to hear about your son’s progress, Destiny! Keep up the great work.

Carol H

says:

Great printable poster!

Karen

says:

Great Ideas, thanks!

Lisa

says:

Such a good reminder! Thank you!

Ana

says:

Great advice! I absolutely love the poster, will be downloading and displaying it for sure!

Anna

says:

This is so true and helps them to not have a negative of closed mindset. The poster is a great idea to have available! Thank

Susan

says:

These are helpful tips. My second child easily slips into the “everything is impossible” camp and I want him to believe in himself the way I do.

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

Susan,
I’m sorry your child is feeling that way. Maybe our blog post Avoid the Big Pit of Comparison can help him. Maybe if you go back to where he was some time ago so that he can see how far he has come it will help him to be more positive that he can also move past this thing too. Sometimes kids just know that school was hard then and school is hard now and they don’t see how far they have progressed. However, if you bring out what was hard months or a year ago and show them how easy it is now, they understand better.

Please let me know how it goes. It is important for our little students to be as excited about their progress as well are. I would love to help you help him be encouraged.

Patty

says:

Thank you! It’s so easy to get in the rut of “getting it all done” that I forget what the real calling is…to develop an equipped Christ follower by showing the same patience and encouragement Jesus shows me!

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

So well put, Patty. Getting things done is important, but the person the child is becoming is even more important!

Lisa Ammon

says:

Great tips. Love all the ideas.

Shana

says:

good tips

Lindsey Thomas

says:

Thanks for the encouragement!

Erin Brabandt

says:

Great advice! My kids love when I write them a card or draw them a picture. I use it as encouragement to tell them what I love about them

Robin E.

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Erin,
A card or a picture is a great way to give encouragement! Thank you for sharing this lovely idea.

Carol

says:

Very good advice. Thank you.

Patsy Foy

says:

These are great tips/reminders. Thank you!

Scarlet Losavio

says:

I wish all your emails were in a book so I wouldn’t have to go to my emails and save them to re-read . I love your program and the wonderful emails . I just wish it was all in a tangible hard copy . 😊

Robin E.

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Scarlet,
Much of the content of our emails is found in our books. The appendices in the back of the All About Reading teacher manuals are especially full, although some of the information is found in the gray boxes scattered throughout the lessons.

Yvette

says:

Love the tips.

Janna

says:

Great suggestions. Homeschooling for the first year and appreciate the tips. Also, we are enjoying the AAR program that makes reading fun!

Jamie Lorenz

says:

Thank you. I needed this.

Mandy

says:

These are some great tips. I have a son who is always saying that it’s too hard so these suggestions will come in handy.

Brandy

says:

Encouragement is a great motivator!

Clau

says:

Amazing 😉

Stefanie M

says:

What wonderful tips!

Sara

says:

Great suggestions! I will definitely be trying more of these. Thank you!!

Heather

says:

I love these specific suggestions! I have a hard time giving and receiving praise, so these are great for me to use and work on!

Robin E.

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Heather,
I struggle with giving (and receiving) praise as well. Since part of what I struggle with is empty praise, such as “Great job!” enthusiastically tacked on to everything, it has helped me to focus praise on my children’s efforts more than their results. “You had trouble with that one, but you kept at it and got it. That it what I like to see!” The effort is genuine, so the praise for the effort is genuine as well.

Kelly

says:

Great tips. Thank you!

Heather

says:

Love this!

Robin S

says:

Definitely needed this reminder! My son says things all the time like “I’m no good at this” and “I can’t do anything right”. I know he can do whatever it is he is trying but he gets so frustrated when he messes up the first few times.

Robin E.

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Robin,
I’m sorry your son is so frustrated. Poor guy. Maybe you can try telling him that if it was always right then he wouldn’t be learning, he would already know it. Then, point out things that he used to have trouble with but now finds easy.

Martha

says:

I definitely need reminders to encourage my kids. I tend to get the end goal in sight and sometimes forget the encouragement needed to get there. Lots of great ideas here.

Elizabeth

says:

I’m about to start prereading with my 3rd child to go through AAR. We love the program.

Ashley

says:

Great tips! And thank you for the printable!

Mia

says:

This was a good reminder, thanks!

Tara

says:

This part: “sometimes get so focused on teaching and “improving” our kids that we forget to encourage them. But teaching a child is so much more than just imparting knowledge.” New homeschool momma here, trying always to keep this in perspective. Great article

Robin E.

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Tara,
We hope we can encourage you as you begin homeschooling!

Crystal

says:

Thanks for the poster! Great idea!

Marilyn

says:

I love the part about helping the child work toward progress not perfection. I need that reminder myself!!!

Robin E.

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Marilyn,
It is hard to be, or to mother, a perfectionist. We need lots of encouragement!

Deirdre

says:

This is a great article! Encouragement is so important for kids. Sometimes it is not easy to remember to encourage them as much as they need!

Amy H

says:

Great products!

Desiree

says:

Encouragement can sometimes get overlooked when focusing on getting things done. These tips are so easy to do and important too!

Robin E.

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Desiree,
Yes! And these can be done without taking any extra time.

Megan

says:

Have this printable hanging on the wall in our school area!

Robin E.

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Megan,
That is the perfect use of this printable!

Callie Hallock

says:

Definitely needed this reminder to encourage my little readers more!

Robin E.

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Callie,
I think we all need reminding to be encouraging, at least at times.

Gail Timmer

says:

This is a super, well organized, easy to use program. I wish I had all the levels!

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

Thank you, Gail!

Tiffany M

says:

Love AAR!

Thea

says:

Great printable!

Robin

says:

Thanks for the tips!

Heidi

says:

Love this! So needed these reminders

RaeLena

says:

Great tips!! This was a great reminder for myself to encourage my child more, thanks! Love the poster! It’ll come in handy!! Thanks! :)

Elizabeth R

says:

This is so true! My daughter responds well to praise and encouragement. It’s a good reminder.

AJ

says:

Great tips and reminders. I think I may print this one out :)

Alexandra

says:

And sometimes all our young kiddos need is a good break to go play outside. At times it is enough to change their defeated attitude and give them a renewed perspective to help them finish their school work.

Robin E.

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Thank you for this reminder, Alexandra!

Rhonda

says:

Always a good reminder! Thanks for the printable!

Tara Jackson

says:

Great tips! As a new homeschooling mom, I need to remind myself to encourage my little guy!

Lindsey

says:

Thank you, very helpful.

Brandi

says:

Love the tips of encouragement!

Cyndi

says:

Love the poster! Sometimes I get so caught up in the “what’s wrong” I forget to appreciate what is “right” :P Thanks for the reminder to always accentuate the positive :)

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

You are welcome, Cyndi. Accentuate the positive!

K

says:

Thanks for this reminder. Having only one, it’s easy for me to focus on all of the negative aspects instead of the positive ones. And, I know he’s smarter than he acts. I just have to find ways to draw that out instead of pointing it out.

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

K,
Please let us know in what way he is struggling or not doing as well as you would like. We may be able to help you draw his abilities out, or at least assure you that what he is experiencing is within the range of normal.

Tiffany Shoopman

says:

Positive affirmations are good for ourselves and especially our children. Once a way of thought has been introduced into a child’s subconscious, there if will remain unless much is done to re-do it. I love this blog post encouraging parents to speak those positive affirmations to our children.

Sherry

says:

Sounds interesting

Kit

says:

Thank you for the article.

Jennifer R

says:

We have a 9 year old who has delayed reading. We take her reading and learning slow knowing she will get it but anytime she learns reading a new word its constant praises

A. Patterson

says:

Children need to be reminded that they are very special. Really like the reminders.

Jessica Fuller

says:

Great reminder! Thanks.

Jessica

says:

When I first began teaching my children, I allowed my stress to affect my teaching and expected too much from them. The results were disastrous! We have come a long way from where we were, but it would have been better to be encouraging, kind, and fun from the beginning. Thank you for the reminder!

Robin E.

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Jessica,
I think we have all had times when we were less encouraging and kind than we ought to have been with our children, but we can strive to be better.

Audra

says:

Love all the extra ideas at the end!

K C

says:

Thank you for sharing this wonderful program and great ideas to help children learn.

Alanna

says:

Love encouraging and ideas for building this foundation into my children! Thank you!!

Listening to my kids is a concept that I have to constantly remind myself. I find that when I take the time to listen to them, our homeschooling journey becomes much more fun.

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

Great point, Indasa. Even young children can offer insight into what they enjoy and what they find difficult.

A. Okuda

says:

I love AAR! It has saved my sanity (and my daughters) during the early stages of reading. Not only am I more confident, but my 6 year old became more confident with each lesson and story completed.

Robin E.

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Confidence in reading, and in teaching reading, is a wonderful thing! We are happy to hear that AAR has helped to build confidence in your home.

Lori B

says:

I love this post. It is the philosophy I have used since I started homeschooling my now-23-year-old son. I work with struggling learners and am currently teaching my adopted son who has many challenges, including ADHD, dyslexia, and PTSD. There are days when we get far and days when the simplest thing is too much. If it weren’t for snuggles and words of praise, the day would be ruined. I love AAR so much for my special little guy partly because it has so many fun, encouraging pieces and words built right in.

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

Lori,
Encouragement and snuggles do go a long way. It’s great to hear that AAR helps as well. Thank you.

Cheryl W.

says:

Great Reminders!

Kathy D.

says:

Thank you for this encouraging post. I try to be as positive as possible with my children that I homeschool, mostly focusing on the improvements and great achievements to remind them what they are capable of.

Robin E.

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Kathy,
We are happy to hear you found this post encouraging! Thank you.

Olinda Youngs

says:

I homeschooled my 6 children using Spalding’s Writing Road to Reading, which it seems must be the basis for All About Reading. I now have 7 grandchildren and their parents are interested in using AAR, which seems like a much more user friendly option than I had access to! So glad this is available!

Robin E.

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Olinda,
All About Reading is not based on Spalding’s Writing Road to Reading. Rather, both are based on the Orton-Gillingham approach, so their similarities are due to them both coming from the same parent approach.

One of the few differences is that Spalding added “markings” where the student marks the words. All About Reading and All About Spelling make use of letter tiles to teach the same concepts without special markings.

I’m glad to hear you consider All About Reading to be more user friendly. We want to make teaching children as easy as possible!

Ana Tham

says:

that’s great. I agree. When kids feel encouraged they can do much better.
Speak the truth in love and help them grow healthy.
My son is a very energetic boy but very kind and lovable. So when i speak to him and encourage him to keep going and not give it usually gives him the strength he needs to persevere.
Love the poster.

Robin E.

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Ana,
Thank you for sharing how encouragement helps your son to persevere!

Jaime B

says:

When my children get discouraged I remind them that it takes practice to really do something well. We reflect on how they’ve improved in the area they are currently discouraged in.

Robin E.

says: Customer Service

Great reminder, Jaime. I like to discuss things I have tried to learn that took a lot of practice, like making Jewish rye bread from scratch. My kids have eaten the less than wonderful results of that learning.

Karrie

says:

I appreciate this post immensely because I have heard kids on the receiving end of very negative comments from parents. It really deflates them and proves to them that they are not worthy of praise. Their little world is so sensitive to our comments, facial expressions, and moods. When we empower them, they really do believe they can conquer that fraction problem or achieve what seems impossible! Great article!

Robin E.

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Karrie,
The idea of discouraging struggling learners with our words saddens me. This post is a great one to revisit from time to time to remind us to be encouraging.

Good Morning, My name is Rachel Anderson
I am a 78 year old Substitute Teacher K-6 throughout Midland, Texas School District. I am very impressed with your posters and would like to receive the Encouraging Word Poster and the A-Z Poster to display when I go to different schools to teach. I am working with no budget at this time and I am not requesting this on behalf of the school district. Therefore, if you will donate them to me I would be indeed grateful. Also, I did not see any posters on how to tell a student what to do if someone touch you inappropriately. Any help you can give to help me make a change in these children lives starting now 2017 before it is too late for many of them would be appreciated. However, once I receive them I can, if you will allow me introduce your educational products to the school district or teachers perhaps they would like to order them. I am not sure if this is the page to post my request, if not please forward. Thanks for your time and considetation. Best Regards,

Robin E.

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Rachel,
Thank you for all you do!

Here is the link so that you can print the Encouraging Word poster. http://downloads.allaboutlearningpress.com/downloads/Encouraging-Words-Poster.pdf

Our A-Z Posters are not available as a printable, but they can be purchased through our website here. http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/alphabet-charts/

We do not have any posters about what a student should do if they are touched inappropriately.

If you want to introduce our products to the school district or teachers, here are some samples for you:

All About Reading samples and scope and sequence links – http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/reading-lesson-samples/

All About Spelling samples and scope and sequence links – http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/spelling-lesson-samples

If you would like to see the product in person, simply order through our system. We have a one year, 100% guarantee, so if you decide that it’s not a fit for your school, you can return the product for a refund of your purchase price. http://www.allaboutlearningpress.com/guarantee

Thank you for your interest.

Jack Stephan

says:

Turning everything in to a game sounds like an interesting concept, especially when it comes to 3d concepts and all in chemistry, physics etc. Wonderful article. Enjoyed reading the readers comments :-)

Miss K

says:

Remind them they’re special and unique; that there’s only one of them in this world. That God didn’t need to make another copy of them, because they were created perfect the first time round. Tell them they’re a master piece.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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This is lovely, Miss K. Thank you.

sanzu basnet

says:

thank u

Sandra

says:

Thank you, I needed this encouraging reminder!

Fran

says:

Really enjoyed this blog, VERY helpful and the poster was so pretty! But when I printed it out, forgot to do color, so I let my daughter color it in, and I started right away using some encouraging words at what a great job she did=) I have it hanging up in our classroom now. It’s amazing what a few encouraging words will do to help things move along smoothly! Thank you!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Fran,
Thanks for letting us know that printing this poster in black and white results is a coloring page! My daughter would love that.

Anna

says:

This is very good advice. I really enjoyed the article.

Allison Simpson

says:

This is exactly what I needed- and who I need to be for my sweet kiddos. Thank you for the support and encouragement!

Kayla

says:

This is what I needed to remember today. Thank you for the printable poster too.

Crystal

says:

Thanks for the reminder that I really need to be constantly encouraging my kids.

Mandydmngz

says:

We absolutely love AAS, and I wish I had it in the budget for AAR. The program gives me as an educator so much confidence that I’m doing it right and we are not missing a beat! It’s a fantastic program.

Deniece

says:

**GUILTY** I’m guilty of not always remembering to encourage my son and daughter. First year homeschooling and I’m learning. Thanks for the reminder to encourage and finish a subject on a positive note. Still seeking the “right” English/grammar/vocab curriculum.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Deniece,
This is something that we all need to learn to be better at and remember, whether it’s your first year of homeschooling or your 15th. I’m in my 15th year and still struggle with encouragement and positivity. Resolve to do better, but try not to beat yourself up about it much.

Hannah costa

says:

Thank you for this post! I really needed this :) I love AAR and AAS, they have taken the challenge out of teaching for me, and my kids really respond to the lessons and the approach!

Tiffany

says:

Thank you for these great tips. It is easy to forget to encourage more and be critical less.

Deanna

says:

Thank you for this sweet reminder.

Britani

says:

What wonderful advice!

MelindaB

says:

A great reminder. Much needed. Thank you.

Tabatha johnson

says:

I really enjoyed this blog! Having the gratitude of teaching your own child, there is nothing like it

Danielle Jenkins

says:

Thanks for the concrete examples!

Denise

says:

My son needed an extra dose of encouragement. Wish I would have had this poster.

Emily

says:

Great reminder to be positive and supportive while teaching.

Kay

says:

Thank you for this poster! I love it! I also really love what you’ve written about being the teacher that you would want to have! So great!!

Kay

says:

When my kids tell me “it’s too hard!” I validate that yes, this task is hard, but I tell them “you CAN do hard things!” and I remind them of successes they’ve had with previous tasks that felt hard and now are easy. I remind them to just keep trying and soon it will come. I also have to remind myself of this when I feel like they should have it by now! Give them the time they need to learn and stay positive! When they don’t believe in themselves, show them that you don’t have a doubt that they can and will do it!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Great reminder, Kay. We all CAN do hard things! Thank you.

Emily

says:

Great words for parents!

Kelly Urban

says:

Thank you for the reminder that it isn’t me-against-them. We are in this homeschool experience together. The power of positive words is often forgotten here while trying to get everything done. Your list will be a helpful reminder to focus on the positive!!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

says: Customer Service

Kelly,
Yes! Homeschooling is a team sport!

Jennifer Walker Bruce

says:

I try to encourage by example as often as possible. If something is difficult for me (hanging a light fixture recently hit the mark) I might say out loud “gahhh this is so hard, but I am not going to give up on it. I guess maybe I should just walk away for a sec and take a breather… What do you think? ” This kind of stuff gives me things to draw upon later. “Hey, remember when those instructions were driving me nuts and you agreed that I just needed a bit of a brain break? Maybe that’s just what you need! We can come back to this later with a fresh head. I’m proud of you for knowing what you need to succeed.”

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
I do much the same, modeling behavior and thought processes I feel are important. Thank you for the reminder.

Carmen

says:

Thanks for the great post! It echoes so well what God says in Proverbs 16:21, “The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increases learning.”

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Carmen,
Thank you for sharing this verse! I love it!

Priscilla

says:

Great post! We all need encouragement!

shannon

says:

Love these reminders :) Encouragement is SO important!

lizzie

says:

I give encouraging remarks when work is well done and encourage them to try when they haven’t done too well. I also let them make their favorite snack as a well done

Michele

says:

Thanks for the posters, what a wonderful idea and reminder!

Annette

says:

I have been trying to do this every day!

Megan

says:

What a great reminder

Tamara

says:

I printed this poster and started encouraging more last week. By today, our first full homeschool day after break, I was primed to encourage and motivate my children through the slumps, instead of becoming cross and impatient, which yields bitter fruit. Thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

says: Customer Service

Tamara,
Hears to a great second half of the school year!

Shelly

says:

A great reminder! One of the greatest joys of homeschooling is being able to see it “click” with my kids. Before, when they were in public school, I missed out on those moments. It has definitely brought us closer together.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Shelly,
Yes! Those moments are precious.

Elizabeth

says:

This post is such a good reminder! We should definitely be the teachers we would want to have!

Lynn

says:

Always a needed reminder. Thanks for the beautiful poster!

Paul Milas

says:

“Be the teacher you would want to have”

I guess you have expressed the entire article in a single sentence. Indeed, it is very important to to be the teacher you always wanted to have in your childhood and not the one you hated. Education becomes so much more easier if you have a teacher you love.

Rebecca, mom of 6

says:

Thanks for this much needed reminder! We want to raise children of character, not just good readers:) I hear my kids say, “urrrrgh!” and I know where they heard that! One sure way to have children who are irritable about school is to be a grumpy, impatient teacher. I am going to print this poster and hang it at my school table to remind myself to be patient and encouraging during those “urrrgh” moments:)

christine

says:

Excellent reminder. Thanks

PanJiaLe

says:

I love the phrase: “Be the teacher you would want to have.”

Aimee

says:

Thank you for this reminder. It is easy to forget how much an encouraging word can boost a child’s spirit.

Julie

says:

A good reminder as I can get short & cranky with little ones who have “ants-in-their-pants” moments, or don’t want to do their school when I’m ready for them (with 4 needing my attention this year when it’s time to sit down with one of them for reading or math & they give me a hard time or start having a meltdown it’s hard to remember to be encouraging). :)

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
It IS hard to be encouraging when they are whining, melting down, or otherwise being less than positive themselves. Yet, one could argue that is when it is most needed. I know I need reminders about that as well as anyone.

Kaylene

says:

I have a tendency to be short with my children, so this is really good advice for me as I am coming to the start of homeschooling.

Melissa

says:

I make sure to tell them when they did something faster than expected and had no problems.

Eweandtheshepherd

says:

So true. It’s easy to get caught up in the world’s standards rather than drawing out what the Lord has placed in the children’s hearts.

Sarah

says:

I need this reminder! My words need to be about more than controlling the situation or producing a certain outcome….I need to be reminded of the the power of words- both positive and negative…..Thank you!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Sarah,
You are welcome. I think we all need this reminder at times.

Katherine Green

says:

Thanks so much for this. It’s super helpful for me, I don’t give enough praise.

a

says:

Even more important than reading & writing! We are raising human beings, not just instructing academicians.

Jessi

says:

Great stuff! Thank for the reminder :)

Ivory

says:

Wonderful reminder. Thank you.

crystal bradley

says:

A perfect reminder

Cynthia Mercado

says:

I remind him that we are all made special with abilities we excel at and some that we have to spend more time learning.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Cynthia,
YES! I do this too, but it can get a bit uncomfortable when the kids ask what I have trouble with. Ever try to honestly list out your own faults to your children? But it is helpful for them to know that mom struggles in areas too.

Kelsey Garber

says:

I am very glad that one of my friends helped me to find your site! I teach K-9 and I really like your blogs!!!

Erin Hill

says:

Thank you for this reminder. When things get tough, I don’t feel very encouraging.

Sarah Jelsema

says:

We would absolutely LOVE to win this!!! We’ve been wanting to get started in this with our daughter!!

Kristina Richardson

says:

We love AAR. We just finished level 1, and it has really helped my dyslexic child.

Andrea

says:

These are helpful tips! My daughter and I just finished AAR Level 1. I also have a 4 month old and a 3 year old, so the time that we sit together to complete the lessons is OUR special time. We love it!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Andrea,
I love the idea of approaching reading lesson time as a special mommy and me time. Thank you for sharing it.

Katelin

says:

Some great tips! I especially love the quote by Mother Teresa!

Amy

says:

Oh how I love this reminder! One of my favorite quotes from Blessed Mother Teresa😊.

Malena Howe

says:

Recently I have been learning about helping students have a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. Having a fixed mindset means that you believe you will always be the way you currently are. For example saying “I can’t spell” is a fixed mindset. A growth mindset means you believe you can change and learn. Lately any time one of my kids have said that they can’t do something, I respond by saying “you can’t do that yet” To let them know that with practice they will get it. Also, any time one of them asks how it is that I am so good at something, I answer “practice” to let them know that to get good at pretty much anything, all they need to do is practice.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Malena,
Thank you for sharing this. I am loving the word “yet”.

Christina

says:

Thanks for the reminder!

Angela

says:

Love all the tips!

Ashley

says:

Great reminders!

Jessica

says:

This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

Liz

says:

Great reminders!! Thank you!

Pam

says:

thank you for the reminder

Capri M

says:

I think I need to read this every day! My son takes words that are said very literally and directly to his heart. I always have to be careful of my word choice when encouraging or correcting him.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

says: Customer Service

I understand this too well, Capri. It is a great reminder.

Amy K

says:

like you say, more than just filling a mind with knowledge- I’ve heard it said, in teaching your children it is better to light the fire (of the love of learning) than to fill a bucket. All About Reading has such great readers, my daughter is doing well with them!

Angela Doherty

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This is a timely reminder for me, as with the holidays I have been stressed and rushed. Will definitely so down and encourage more.

Angela Doherty

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This is

jennifer

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I opened my email and this post changed my day! It’s a new year and I told the kids they will have a better teacher. Thanks for the reminder not only to be encouraging but the blessings that flow from that.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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An email that changed your day. That’s high praise, Jennifer. Thank you.

Tracy

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Love all the encouragement and advice I receive on your site. This is our first year using AAR and AAS. My boys live the curriculum.

camille LOPEZ

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So true! I love the Mother Teresa quote! thank you for the printable and the reminder!!

Rhonda

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Always good to be reminded of this! Love the poster for our wall! Thank you!

Melanie Johnston

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Thank you for the reminder & all of your supportive “extras”! We make full use of each & every one of them! Thank you so much! :)

Tina

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Wonderful. I will be implementing these.

Samantha

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Great reminder! Why is it praise and encouraging words have to be learned but criticalness rolls off the tongue? Thanks for the reminder.

stephanie

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Hope this works

Karen

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This is just what I needed! Thanks!

Elizabeth B

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This is a good reminder! Thanks for the printable, too!

Jessica

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We love All About Reading. My daughter read yesterday to me and then hugged me after and told me she loved me being her teacher. She use to be so anxious when trying to read on school it would make her sick. Homeschooling and your programs have made her to much more confident.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jessica,
Thank you for sharing this. It tears me up to think about the anxiety that many struggling learners experience in a classroom setting, especially because anxiety about learning is the worst thing to help a struggling learner succeed. Good for you for bring her home and allowing her to learn in a warm, caring environment where she can have the best chances at success!

Erin

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Thanks – this is great!

Denise Wilson

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Great reminder for when days get hard. Thank you.

Shelly Roy

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As the mom of a 15 learning challenged son, this poster is going on my wall! It will serve to remind me that my guy IS fearfully and wonderfully made! Thansk!

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Shelly,
I hope you and your son find the poster to be encouraging all year long!

Barbara Allyn

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So important to remember to stay encouraging!

Heather

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Thank you Marie for this inspiring post! I really like the printable poster – thank you! :)

Tina-maria

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By always being available and approachable – my children know they can approach me with any problems they may have

Christina

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I love this. I always feel encouraged myself when I come to this website. What a beautiful thing you are doing for all of us out here. I would come give hugs to everyone if I could to express my gratitude for all you do.

Lora

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Thank you!

Staci Miller

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I’ve finally put my foot down. As of this month, I have taken my daughter out of the public school system. Often my six year old girl would come home from school and tell me the other kids called her stupid, and the infamous color system was being used on her as a punishment for her inability to understand the lesson was appalling and frustrating to the both of us. Often I would find myself telling the teacher, “Please encourage and cheer her along instead of punishing her for not understanding.”
This poster will be printed as a constant reminder of one of many reasons I am homeschooling instead of using the public school system. Smile, Praise, Encourage, and Listen are vital for child’s development. We as parents should build our children up to be the best they can be and to believe in themselves!
Thank you for this wonderful read.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Staci,
I am so sorry your daughter has had to experience this, but I know she will find encouragement and support at home with you! I hope you have a GREAT first semester of homeschooling.

Amber

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Thank you so much for a wonderful post! This is something that I really need to be reminded of. I get overwhelmed (5 kids…2 with special needs) and I tend to lose my patience. I have been working on keeping calm and being more encouraging though and I found that the kids really thrive on it. I do little things like making sure to always point out the positives in everything they do, celebrate achievements, and write them small encouraging letters that I stick to the bathroom mirror. I always make sure they know I am so proud of them and I think they are awesome!

Donna Redgewell

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It’s so easy to forgot, that words and touch can be such a powerful tool.

Love everything about this post. We give high fives. I tell them what they are great at (insert specific skill or trait). And I tell them that they are awesome & I love spending my days with them!

Sharon

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It’s amazing how something so simple can be so life impacting; yet, at the same time challenging to do in a moment of impatience! Truly our tongues have been given the power to speak words of death or life into a person’s life or any given situation. Great reminder to everyone not just homeschooling parents. Even during those seasons in homeschooling that are very hard, it’s so important that we never forget to encourage the children or ourselves for that matter!
Love what Mother Teresa said – it’s so true. Let’s keep planting those seeds of uplifting words in these young hearts :)

Jennifer Balogh

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This is such an important lesson, and one that needs to be repeated. Love it.

I love using All About Reading – the other day my daughter was fighting me on doing her lesson, then I used the script enclosed and BOOM her little eyes lit up and she got it AND COULD READ ALL THE WORDS that she just “blah blah blah” just 2 minutes earlier. Everytime I actually take the couple of minutes to work through the scripts with her – it makes the HUGEST difference. It’s been such Godsend to help reinforce what she is learning through her OG tutors. THANK you so much!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
Thank you for sharing how our scripted lessons have made such a difference for your daughter.

Maya

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Thank you for this reminder! I do use encouraging words, but I don;t think I am the teacher I want to have as much as I should be. When I “know” that my children can do something, but they are not giving it enough attention, I tend to become critical and pushy. And those are the moments of weakness, which I wish I’d learn to handle with more grace and less strictness. I will try to use your reminder to become better at this for my kids.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Hugs, Maya. We all have such moments, or at least I know I do.

marie hall

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needed this today

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Marie,
I’m glad your post was timely for you, but it sounds like maybe you had a bit of a discouraging day. I hope today was better.

Shandy

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Thank you for the reminder that we all need encouragement.

Tiffani

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What a good reminder. I will speak positive to my kids and in front of my kids.

Lourie

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We all need words of encouragements. I Have used “that was a tough, and you got it!” Motivation words before and it’s such a satisfaction to see the kids faces light up. Thanks for the printable poster! Will be downloading this! :)

Stacy

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Thank you for the reminder. I will use the poster for the cover of my homeschool schedule binder. Thanks!

Teresa

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well, this is something I need to work on. I think I get more discouraged than my kids do. Thanks for all of your uplifting and interesting posts!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Teresa,
Maybe you should keep the poster nearby for yourself! Encouraging self-talk has been shown to be important in many areas.

Julie

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When children are discouraged, and say “I can’t do this,” “I don’t understand this,” “I just don’t get it,” etc…repeat back what they say (empathy) but add a “yet” (encouragement and hope). “You don’t understand this yet. But I know we will find a way to make it make sense to you.” That one word “yet” is very powerful! Love the printable; thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
Yet… I love it! What a great word. Thank you for sharing it.

Asano

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Thank you for this good reminder! :)

Nellie

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What a great reminder to me to be positive for my sons. It is like a ripple in a pond. Someone has to take the lead. When you home school moms it. Great encouragement!

Kelly Levesque

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“Be the teacher YOU would want to have.” I love this! What a great reminder!

Amber

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Thanks for the reminder of the power of encouragement! I just printed the cool poster!!!!

Saph

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Great reminder!
Our words are powerful and can speak life or death so we need to choose life!

Jenny Acosta

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Thank you so much!

Suanna

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I needed this post on encouraging my students, sometimes I get so busy teaching that I forget to let them know that they are doing well. This year we have been using sticker charts to mark completed items by lunch everyday. When the chart is full they get to choose a special treat to go along with their lunch. It works great and my children work hard to complete their work in a timely fashion.

Jill

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Too often this our focus on our encouraging words and smiles are neglected. My daughter always tells me she wants to see, feel and hear my encouragement. I’m thankful she gently reminds me of what all children need. Hopefully this year I can be better at teaching with encouragement as I inspire my kids to keep learning.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jill,
Bless your daughter’s heart! What a great reminder to include non-verbal encouragement like a smile, a touch, a hug, or even clapping.

My kids love hands-on learning activities. Rote memory works well for them at times, but they need to be able to go back and almost immediately use what they learned. Otherwise they don’t see the need to learn it.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Paula,
Great point. Many children need to immediately use what they have learned in order to cement the understanding.

Jennifer

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I try to spend a little time each day with each child by themselves. They get a little break from their siblings and I get to know them independently. This time recharges us all…

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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This sounds lovely, Jennifer. Thank you for sharing.

Paige

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I leave my children that can read little notes when I notice them doing something that I like. With my little ones, I make extra time for just them to do something they really enjoy doing.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Oooo, I love the idea of leaving little notes of encouragement! I’ll be stealing this idea :). Thank you for sharing it, Paige.

Tosha Kelly

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I need to to do a better job of this!

Linsey

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We do this kind of positive review at the end of every day!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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What a lovely way to end the day, Linsey!

Jodie uhlig

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Oh this is FANTASTIc!!!!

Jenn Khurshid

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Thank you for this reminder!

Kristin Evans

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These are great reminders to keep our words positive with our children.I love the poster!

Julie

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This is so important to remember especially with a child who internalizes things. I find it very helpful to point out how far they have come and show them work they have done in the past compared to what they are doing now so they can see that they are actually improving and doing a great job.

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Julie,
Yes, this is a great way to encourage! Reading a story from a couple months ago or spelling words from a previous level can go a long way to giving kids a better perspective of just how far they have come. Thanks for pointing this out.

Abigail

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I think this is something I struggle with most. Often I have to catch myself from being too critical. Thanks for the encouragement.

Jennifer

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This was very well timed for me. My dd completely shuts down if something is too hard, or if she gets it wrong & is corrected. I’ve started letting her correct some of her own math, & she is better figuring it out herself. A lot of great ideas & sayings here! Thanks!

Robin E. at All About Learning Press

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Jennifer,
I’m sure these encouraging words will help, but maybe you can discuss the idea that mistakes can be good things with her. Try getting this book from the library, Beautiful Oops. Or, if she is is the type that will find more comfort in real world examples, read or summarize this article for her, 9 Brilliant Inventions Made by Mistake. Basically, get her thinking about how mistakes can lead to wonderful things.

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